Posts by Abby Kojola
Let Life Be What It Is
This morning I spent some time sitting, drinking my tea, listening to the sounds of life happening around me, and watching my thoughts come and go. I can string my thoughts together with such passion and dedication when I am invested in communicating them in order to achieve a certain outcome. Sometimes I catch myself…
Read MoreMy Ancestors Love
Remembering the dead & feeling my ancestors love. My maternal grandmother, Helen Aherns Berger, was the elder most present in my young life. What I remember most about her was the feeling of being accepted. I knew she was rooting for me to be myself. In retrospect, it seems like she wanted to see who…
Read MoreThe Preacher
About 6 years ago, my good friend and her fiancé called to ask if I would officiate their wedding. I was incredibly honored and immediately said an enthusiastic. “YES!” As what I had agreed to do slowly set in, I realized that I felt insecure about performing a wedding ceremony given that I’ve had so…
Read MoreHolding Tiny Humans
The right side photo is from 8 years ago. I’m overcome with wonder at the sweet, preciousness of my sleeping, spirit nephew, Sonny, in my arms. I’m so grateful that my body easily knows how to hold others. My body is designed to radiate love and comfort to those allowed to get close enough to…
Read MoreGood morning sunshine.
I wasn’t feeling like it was a good morning when I woke up. I don’t know why I sometimes wake with hard feelings on my heart. Sometimes waking up alone feels luxurious and calm, sometimes it feels incredibly lonely and sad. Today I woke attuned to the bottomless black hole that no amount of attention,…
Read Morebell hooks
This writing is from the influence bell hooks writing is having in my life. I’m wrapping my mind around my expanding understanding of what I thought I understood as gender roles. I invite the thoughts of those I may offend and acknowledge that I am taking a risk and might get something wrong. When we…
Read MoreAutumn Equinox
Today is the Autumn Equinox and I wanted to spend it breathing fresh air, reveling in natural beauty, and listening to wise messages from water, trees, and my local creatures roaming & flying around China Camp. A beautiful intention gone awry. Instead, I woke up grouchy. I kept my hoody hood up all morning. Hiding…
Read MoreBody Love
Every human has a body that is beautiful, unique, and sacred. If we could all only see, know, and remember this both inside and outside of ourselves, what a vastly different world we might inhabit. A newly inspired Sacred Body Love practice for me is to stay connected to the reverence I have for my…
Read MoreSacred Body Love
I’ve been creating time & space to talk with people about what we love about our bodies. These conversations have lit me up from the inside. The energy is electric, powerfully healing, intimate, and educational. I’ve noticed that to even get to what we love about our bodies, to even see and feel our sacred…
Read MoreSummer Solstice
I took a long hike in China Camp today to experience this iteration of summer’s arrival. This is my 13th summer settling on this land where the Coast Miwok are the indigenous inhabitants. The earth here on the summer solstice is hard and dry. Some of the well-worn trails of China Camp are hardened like…
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